Friday, August 9, 2013

Top or Bottom




A thread conversation on a blog post  made me wonder how does one know if he is a top or a bottom?

Especially for my case, I haven't tried either. I had this gut feeling that I'm a bottom but I'm always afraid of sticking "it" in. It seems very painful. I also have no idea how to "prepare". Being a bottom seems to be a lot of work.

Sometimes, I feel that maybe I should be a top instead to save me from all the hassle. But whenever I think of the idea, I don't feel aroused. Still, that is not a clear indicator I won't enjoy it right? Or maybe I'm wrong.

Random contemplation.

Side note: Sorry, Geosef for being off topic with that comment. :)


24 comments:

  1. hahahahah OMG. My young padawan.

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    1. I have so much to learn, Master! :))

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    2. Remember that the anus is not really designed to be inserted because the sphincter opens outward.

      This is something you can gradually train though. But first, you have to will yourself to "want" it. Start with a well lubed finger and insert gently while breathing through the mouth to relax. When you're comfortable with it, then try two. Once inside, make gentle circles with your finger to relax the inner lining.

      Enemas are an option but I never do it. I choose diet. I eat mostly fruits and veggies and less meat. All the fiber will leave you squeaky clean and since I poop up to twice a day, it doesn't smell as much.

      You need a very patient and understanding top/partner as well. It will be painful, it can get messy. But if you have a willing partner, it will all pay off soon :)

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    3. Thanks, Seth! Just had a conversation with partner regarding his first and last experience of bottoming his ex and how he prepared. Laughtrip but not reassuring.

      Good thing partner is patient. He's not pressuring me to have sex with him.... yet. :)

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    4. And may I compliment your nice ass. :)

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    1. Be a versa, top-versa or bottom-versa. :)

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    2. Seeing that my partner is an exclusive top, trying both ways seems unlikely to happen. Haha! My partner tried bottoming his ex before. He did not like it. Then he became an exclusive top.

      And there I was listening to his stories like an innocent child gawking at a lollipop he never had (no pun intended). :)

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    3. You better try any of the 2... Do it soon before it's too late... hahaha

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    4. Noooo! Bakit may deadline? Hahaha!

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    5. @Geosef: Sorry ah but I have to say I don't believe in top-versa or bottom-versa that is soooooooooo ironic. Just making things more complicated. If you're top you're top if bottom, bottom if versa then versa. simple. straightforward. facile. :)

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  3. No worries FSOQ. :)

    A top is someone whose main source of arousal and pleasure is centered on their cock. For a bottom, it's their ass.

    Although this doesn't conclude that tops won't enjoy a good rimming, and bottoms can't be pleasured with a blowjob.

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    1. I'll take note of that. Maybe I should try a dildo first and see if my ass would positively respond. haha!

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  4. try mo both before you decide. :)

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  5. I usually know by mannerisms, its not 100%.
    but for example when courting bottoms take a less dominant role while tops are more sexually assertive in their advances.

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    1. Kung ayan ang pagbabasehan, bottom nga ako! :)

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  8. I always believe that sexual preference is a choice and not imparted by someone's characteristics. Kasi others would immediately say that you're a bottom if malambot ka kumilos and top if lalaking lalaki. It's a choice. Meaning it will depend on your sexual pleasures. As for me, I don't really know if I'm top or bottom. I've tried both. I've been a top once. I liked it but that doesn't make me a top (officially) since I only did it once. I've also been a bottom and... its god-damn-fucking-ridiculously-painful. I did not enjoy it actually. I dunno...or maybe I'm doing it with the wrong person. I have not done it with a boyfriend so usually it was given by a fubu or one night stand (Meaning those partners are not patient enough to make me relax. All they care about is sticking their stupid tool inside me until they came. Since I'm mabait I would pretend I'm enjoying it even if I'm not. Ooopps! Sorry. This is not about me pala. Hehe!) Don't get me wrong I use protection and all but I think its just the way it is. So, whenever I'm having sex with someone its not always top drilling bottom.

    My point is, having a distinct sexual preference is NOT a requirement. You can have sex without penetration. Just like me, I enjoy 69 more rather than drilling or being drilled.

    But its up to you really.. :)

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    1. Nakakapanlambot yung mga reaksyon nyo sa pagbottom. Made me wonder how Seth does it.

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    2. Don't rush. There is always a perfect time para ma bottom ka. some of my bottom friends said its really orgasmic daw once na master mo na. Ang sarap daw talaga ng feeling.

      Do it at a perfect time with the right person. Key word is relax ;)

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  9. When I started out... my preference was to be on top. Dun ako enjoy. Then I had a boyfriend who asked me for my virginity. Of course I gave it. Love nga naman. It was so painful. But you know what, the pleasure outweighs the pain. And since then, I enjoyed doing it both ways.

    Don't be fooled. It's going to be painful at first up to the point na gusto mo na umayaw. The key is to relax. Endure the pain while you adjust. When the pain is gone, pleasure will come.

    How and when do I know kung anong position ang preferred ko? Depende sa mood, sa physical appearance, and sa size. Ung first, self explanatory na yun. Ung second, kapag cute/pogi/gwapo/straight looking, masarap ibottom yan. Kapag astig ang dating, masarap magpabottom sa kanila. Yung size, mas malaki mas masarap. In my experience kasi the smaller it is the more painful it will be.

    - DK

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  10. Experience is the best teacher :)

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