Friday, September 27, 2013

Queer Quickie: Random thinking about monthsaries

What would you feel when your partner forgets your monthsary for the second time consecutively?

I had to remind him that it's our monthsary yesterday. We don't celebrate our monthsaries and I usually comfort myself with the fact that, at the very least, a greeting first thing in the morning would be the best. But not even a greeting was said last month. A week has passed after our special day last month before I broke my silence and told him that he forgot our special day and a greeting would have been enough. Yesterday, I can't help myself but remind him that afternoon. Is he that busy to forget?

What should I feel?  Should I be mad?

Should monthsaries even be celebrated?

I was always a firm believer of not counting the months in a relationship and just deal with the relationship one day at a time. But now that I'm in a relationship, I have this feeling every month, on the day we became committed, that day is special and should be celebrated. That I want to reminisce what we've been through, celebrate what we have now, and to make plans for our tomorrow.

But here I am, still dreaming of celebrating a monthsary.

Magtampo man ako, mukha namang walang mangyayari. Kapag pinagsasabihan ko siya, wala rin namang pagbabago.

I guess I should keep myself in silence and not expect.

Who am I to ask for so much?

18 comments:

  1. You are thinking too much.

    Maybe andun na siya sa point na petty na lang ang monthsaries, at ang mahalaga ay ang bigat ng pagsasama nyo. As the old saying goes, quality over quantity diba. :)

    Kami nowadays, nakakalimutan na din namin minsan na monthsary pala namin. Naaalala namin mga a day or two na ang lumipas. Pero di naman masyado big deal kasi alam naman namin kung gaano namin kamahal ang isa't isa.

    Maybe mag-alala ka if ikaw mismo na ang nalilimutan nya.

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    1. I second it. Siguro big deal ang monthsaries to new couples but otherwise it's not like a mandatory holiday to celebrate. Sa amin din ni Munchkin enough na we remind each other DAILY how we love each other and masaya kami.

      If you want to push it a little further, why not set up his phone reminder or Outlook to remind him of your special day every single month? heheheh

      Celebrated. Hmmm... that also means gastos LOL Tulad ng iba jan pacheck in check in na lang sa hotel and Bistro Mondo reservations? Charot.

      Celebration might also just be simple gratitude of having each other :)

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    2. Thanks!

      @Sep, siguro nga. Baka busy nga lang. Pero tuwing naiisip ko na five months nandun na agad kami sa point na un? Or maybe dahil antagal lang din ng ligawan portion namin?

      @Seth Hahah! Grabe. Di naman ako ganun. Overlyattached bompren lang. :)))

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    3. Oi Seth, idea ni Ace yun no. Siya yung madaming alam. *hahaha*

      FSOQ, so 5 months? Hmmm... Usually kasi hanggang 6 months ang honeymoon phase eh. Observe mo na lang muna siya sa ngayon.

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  2. I suggest you ask him, baka kasi on his part eh hindi na uso yung bati batian kapag monthsary. :)

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    1. Thanks, tanungin ko na rin yun. Baka un nga. I may be thinking too much.

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  3. samin 2 ako yung nagbibilang... he always forgets... but it's not about the numbers naman. kasi when you love each other everytime you're together still feels like the first time tapos sabay feeling niyo na sobrang tagal niyo na rin together.

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  4. pasingit,, hihihi..

    sa ngayon, with my partner, we no longer celebrate monthsaries or even anniversaries,, sabi kasi niya, hindi naman kelangan ng isang petsa kung kelan dapat kayo magsaya ng bongga..

    but it wont hurt naman siguro if you try to ask him na gusto mo ng something special on your monthsary.. try mo sa next monthsary nyo.. hihihi...

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  5. Mag fofourth year n kmi ngpartner ko khit walng handa o celebration importante sa amin ung araw na naging kami :) actually indi sia monthsary sa amin we called it birthday naming dalawa every month hehehe ..

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    1. Oooh kinilig ako. I like hearing stories from successful relationships. It enforces the fact that faithful same sex relationships do exist

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  6. e di next time, make sure na he will never forget it. :) make it memorable! surprise him. hehe kasi kung maghihintay ka lang ng bati baka masaktan ka lang. kung hindi niya thing e di it's fine no expectations pero kung trip mo naman at ikasasaya mo na magcelebrate kayo, push mo day! so next month gulatin mo siya. hehe

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    1. Haha. Sige next month. Gugulatin ko sya. Thanks kalansay ;)))

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  7. You have to respect what one has to offer.

    If I forget our month/anniversary, does this mean I love him less than he does or he cherishes the relationship more than I do?

    As the song goes, different strokes for different folks.

    If it really bothers you, talk to him on how important this is for you and put your foot down. Probably commit to action plans as well.

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    1. Thanks. I haven't considered his opinion and preference on this one. My bad.

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