Tuesday, November 19, 2013

Quickie: Of friends and relationships

I guess it's true. When you're in a relationship, it's better to stay away from other guys despite of being friends only. At the very least, slowly detach or rather weaken the bond. Setting the boundaries is not enough because one may step over the line and get hurt. Detachment may be a better option. Heartaches and tears could have been prevented.

Now, I'm writing the saddest love letter I've ever written. It's for you my friend. I'm having a hard time writing it and I actually felt a tear well up on the corner of my eye. I'm such a cry-baby. I'm not sure if the friendship could be saved but at the very least let's have some closure.

I haven't realized that the feelings you felt for me were genuine.

Sorry for being insensitive.

And I miss you.

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16 comments:

  1. awwww.

    well i think depende pa rin naman. basta kayang i-handle at alam ang limitations. :)

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    1. I think di kinaya. I cannot reciprocate his feelings and I chose the wrong set of words. I miss our conversations and I miss him.

      Could the friendship be saved?

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    2. depende ulit. pero syempre kung genuine ang hangarin na maayos ulit, oo kayang kaya yan. and besides may seed nang nakapunla, kailangan na lang itong diligan para umusbong at mamunga. :)

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  2. Awh :( I am pretty sure that somehow we all have been there and done that. Hopefully things will be set right again for you and your partner :)

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    1. Partner and I are doing great. I miss my friend though.

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    1. Am I wrong? Dapat ba lumayo ba ako sa simula pa lang. He's a great guy and an awesome friend.

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    2. Kung pure friendship lang naman talaga, ayos lang. Introduce him to your partner para maging friends din sila. That would decrease the chances and tendencies na may mangyaring di dapat between the two of you.

      Kung sa simula pa lang ay may attraction o feelings ka na sa kanya o siya sayo, eh inappropriate na na ipagpapatulot nyo pa. Tama lang yung ginawa mo if this is the case.

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    3. I used the wrong words though. Ugh. I hate myself.

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  4. Sabi nila once a person, especially a guy, gets in a relationship, humihina na ang mga bonds niya sa barkada dahil nagsisimula na siya mag build ng buhay sa partner, which is the right thing to do. Magiiba na ang mundo mo pati na rin ang panahon na iginugugol mo sa iba. Your priority should be your partner.

    As for your friend, sorry na lang talaga sa kanya. Masakit yun. I know kasi ako din ay mag-isang umiibig. It would be better na dumistansya ka na muna sa kanya para ma realize niya na hindi mangyayari ang pinapangarap niya. Nasa kanya naman yun kung pipiliin niya na mag move on. Ako nga eh, hindi ko pinili mag move on, kaya eto 10 years na akong nagpapakatanga. hahaha! Natatawa na lang ako sa katangahan ko.

    I believe that friendship can be restored pero kailangan mong tulungan siya, at the same time,naka dipende talaga iyon. If you're standing on the side of love with your partner, he must know that love conquers and will conquer all. Your friend's cause will be a hopeless case. He must envision a different life, without you in the spotlight.

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    2. This is a very well-appreciated comment. Your friend is blessed to have you.

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  5. I lost my bestfriend because of the same thing. I fell in love. He confessed his emotions. I said no but we can still be friends. He agreed. He continued to hope that one day I'll wake up and choose him. My relationship ended in flames. I moved on and got into another relationship. Still didn't choose him. Yet he continues to stay... the cycle continues.

    I love my bestfriend. But not the kind of love he wants. In the end, I had to move away. To let him realize that I can't give him what he wants.

    It's been 3 years. I miss him. But this is something that he needs. I need my bestfriend but he needs to move on. His needs before mine.


    -DK-

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