when I learned recently that partner dated someone four months (?) before we made our relationship official? Allegedly. Partner denies dating anyone during that period. No confrontations. Just questions. Partner said he doesn't even remember the guy but the guy claims that partner lent him one of his books. How does one, who is a self-proclaimed book lover, forget a person who has his book?
Could it be called cheating? We were not even an item that time. But definitely we were in the courtship stage.
Should I even be bothered when it happened moths ago?
Why did I try my best to find the Facebook page of the OTHER guy?
Should I feel betrayed? We're about to hit ten months. The guy said they haven't seen each other for a year.
But knowing that there's this OTHER guy during the courtship stage made me feel queasy.
The worst part is that it's only a year later that I've learned only a bit of it.
I'm left staring at the OTHER's profile page while seeing partner as a mutual friend. Irritated. Confused. Obscured stories. Lies hidden. How much of partner's silence about most of his life covered the parts that I should know? Which parts should I know anyway? On the other hand, do I even have the guts to know?