Saturday, June 7, 2014

E-mail from Sep

Di ako relationship expert huh, but I will try to answer your questions as logical as possible.
Una, ikaw yung nasa relationship. Ikaw yung in love, FSOQ, at hindi kami. Though malamang naranasan na rin namin umibig, hindi namin siyempre alam exactly ang nararamdaman mo.
Keeping in mind what I said above, I guess normal na reactions lang yung mga natanggap mo from us. Bilang tao, siyempre gusto natin sumaya di ba. Sino ba naman ang gustong maging malungkot o miserable? Nilagay namin yung sarili namin sa sitwasyon mo, at ang una naming naisip na solusyon ay ang makipaghiwalay. Why? Because yun naman ang reflex eh, ang umiwas sa unhealthy o nakakasama di ba. Ang problema lang ay hindi kami ang in love dun sa partner mo, kaya madali samin ang magsabi na hiwalayan mo na siya. Samantalang ikaw ay nahihirapan i-process yung advices namin kasi nga ikaw yung nagmamahal.

Tandaan mo, ang taong nagmamahal ay madalas hindi na nakakapag-isip ng maayos. Hindi kami yung in love kaya logical yung desisyon namin para sa'yo, ikaw vice-versa.
Also, ang negative kasi nung pagkakasulat mo sa post mo. Your post kasi seems to be a cry for help, that's why ganun ang responses namin. We want you to be okay, of course. Sometimes, however, the right decisions are those that are difficult to fathom and take. In other words, minsan, kung ano yung tama, yun yung mahirap tanggapin, pero we must go through them eventually.
Bata ka pa, FSOQ. Siguradong akong hindi pa siya ang huli mo.
Ikaw lang ang may hawak ng kaligayahan mo, wala sa amin. If you decide to end the relationship, we would understand if magiging depressing ang posts mo after. We would be here for you, to help you get through it. Pero if you decide to continue in spite of the negative things you told us about your partner, then I think it would be wise for you to stop being sad, and do not post complaints about your relationship anymore just to try and ask some sympathy from us. I am not trying to offend you or anything, I just want you to think hard.
Another thing with regards to your post is yung tungkol sa 'who loves more or less'. Normal yun, never magiging same level ang dalawang tao in a relationship. Sometimes, more is less and less is more, but it doesn't matter, really. The important thing you should keep in mind about love is not the amount, but rather the way one expresses it. And based on your post, it was clear that your partner treats you like a dispensable tool. You don't deserve that, do you? Time is one the best things you could give to someone important. It is a strong indicator of love. He can't give you time, ergo you are not that important. And therefore, you shouldn't make him a priority, when all you are to him is only an option. Sabi yan ni pareng Mark Twain.
PERO (yes, kailangan emphasized), hindi namin kilala personally ang partner mo. We have no idea about sa side niya, so what the hell do we know, right? Like I said, nasa sa'yo talaga yan.
Anyway, we should love not because of the act of love itself, but rather because we want to be happy. No matter what others say, romantic love is a selfish thing. If it doesn't bring you happiness, then why continue it?
Ayun lang. But before I go, let me share with you another quote by Anita Krizzan: "The minute you feel the need to fight for love, you've already lost it. Walk away. It's over."

7 comments:

  1. Pak! So deep :) hahah gives me so much to think about though.. Thanks sephseph and FSOQ

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  2. I'm curious sa reaction mo. *hehe* I hope you're okay na. :)

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    1. Anyway, ask other people as well. They may have a different opinion or advice. Mas mabuti na yung marami kang makausap. ;)

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    2. I think I'm okay na. Thanks, Sep. For the email and all. Virtual hugs and kisses. Xoxo

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  3. waaah parang ang dami kong dapat habulin sa mga nangyari!!! well nawa'y okay ka na ngayon fsoq! just email me kung kailangan mo ng kausap. :)

    anyway ang galing mo talaga seph! dapat magkaroon ka na ng radio show or payong kaibigan column sa bulgar or abante! hehe

    ps

    anong nangyari sa blog mo seph?!

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  4. Galing ng advice ni Sephseph, so spot on. Glad to know you're doing better, sabi mo nga sa reply mo sa comment ni Seph.

    Loving your partner indeed great and can bring you happiness, pero tandaan ang bilin ni Ate Whitney - learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all ♫ ♫ ♫

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  5. What relationship again were you referring to?

    -The clueless boy in me.

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